As a new year begins, I'm thinking about our 46 years of marriage. I can't help smiling as I remember all the times that a woman has said to me, "You are such a cute couple!", or "I wish my marriage was like yours.", or "I wish my husband was like yours." My reply? "We're working at it." I always sense that they are surprised. They seem to think that we have arrived at some point of perfection, or that I somehow managed to find a "perfect" man who is always attentive and sensitive to my needs.
When I was first married, I heard older women who had good marriages state that they had trained their husband well. I thought you train dogs, but you certainly don't "train" a husband! I've changed my mind. I do think, though, that "teach" might be a better word.
