A Man's Point of View Being Married 50 Years

Would you wonder what your husband would say if he was asked why he is still married to you? This happened to us recently. I mentioned to a few people that it was our 49th wedding anniversary. Of course they congratulated us, then we were asked for our "secret". I immediately responded that you have to keep trying, have faith in each other, and become united on your goals. This is great advice, but it is my husband's response that still has me thinking. He said, "Take good care of her and she'll take good care of you." Today I asked him to explain what he meant by that. I thought other people might also be interested in what he said. It wasn't at all like all the hype you hear through the media pressuring women to tuck, fill, and lift to "keep your man". 

My relationship with a "Strong, Silent" man

A friend, knowing that I am a very creative person, asked me how I get my "man of few words" to respond to me. I told her a few things, but when I learned that she also had a "silent type" husband, I thought there was probably more I could say. She told me that my suggestions, as a person who has been married to "a strong, silent" husband for nearly fifty years, was a help to her. This made me wonder what else I could say and has encouraged me to share my experience here. I'm sharing in the hopes that it will help some of you frustrated wives out there. 

Several women have mentioned to me what a great husband I have and what a close relationship we have. I can tell that they are comparing their husband to mine and to our relationship and finding theirs not measuring up. I almost laugh because my husband is not a "natural" relater and our good relationship didn't just "happen". It has taken a lot of work, tears, faith, and nearly half a century of effort. It doesn't come cheap, but things of great value never do. If you are willing to do more than just nag your husband to change, or sulk feeling mistreated, here are some ideas for you.