Should churches be allowed to not perform gay marriages?

I have been reading about all sorts of conflicts between religious freedom claims and civil rights claims; between personal beliefs and individual needs; between conservative religious groups and LGBT rights activists; between employer's religious beliefs and employee's health needs; between religious groups' right to allow only people of their faith in their group or to adopt children from their faith's agency, and minority groups' rights; between the rights of landlords, bosses, and owners of public facilities such as restaurants and businesses, and the rights of minorities who have different needs; between the right for women in women's shelters and in public bathrooms to feel safe, and the rights of transgender individuals; and about the debate between the common good verses inalienable human rights. 

Gays, Members of The Church, and Love

https://www.lds.org/media-library/video/2015-01-1050-what-is-the-purpose-of-family?category=social-media-shareable-videos&lang=eng

As a member of The Church of Jesus Christ of Latter-day Saints, I am pondering why some people are expressing anger toward my faith. It seems to me that they think we are full of hate toward people who are gay. This perspective appears to be founded on the fact that The Church of Jesus Christ of Latter-day Saints does not accept gay marriages. That is true. We believe that marriage between a man and a woman is ordained by God. We also believe in complete chastity before marriage and total fidelity in marriage. We believe that the greatest happiness in this life, and in the life after this, will come as we live in families. We firmly believe that the family is the basis of a stable society.

Does this mean that we hate people who do not accept and live our beliefs? Of course not. True, members of The Church are imperfect people and some have their own prejudices, but we are admonished to overcome these weaknesses and truly live with love as the Savior did.  He associated with people not accepted in his society - the publicans, the Samaritans, the lepers, the sinners, or those who had broken the Jewish law.  He showed deep love to all, and this is what we must also try to do.

Can Members Disagree with Leaders of The Church of Jesus Christ of Latter-day Saints?

Some people think that members of The Church of Jesus Christ of Latter-day Saints are controlled by their leaders; that we are kept in "lock step" and denied the opportunity to express our individual opinions. If this were true, I'd sure be in trouble since I have lots and lots of opinions on about everything!  But what about the people who where shouting their dissenting vote yesterday in General Conference?